Last month Glee aired an episode which had some aspects that, in my opinion, were ace-phobic, or at the very least implied that there was something wrong with anyone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction. While discussing the episode on Twitter, I pointed out that GLAAD is unlikely to do anything about it unless the asexual community pressures them to, and someone pointed out that aces don’t face the same consequences to being mocked as transgender folks do.
And she was right. To the best of my knowledge, asexuals do not get murdered or arrested or turned away from jobs simply because they don’t experience sexual attraction. Any oppression we do experience, we experience because of being members of another group that is oppressed. For example, asexuals who are also transgender individuals experience discrimination against transgender individuals. Asexuals who wish to have romantic partners of the same gender might be read as gay and treated accordingly. And so on.
So I agree that asexuals are not oppressed for being asexual, merely invisible.
Being invisible still hurts. Being mocked for who you are and not having others understand why it isn’t a big deal still hurts. And I want to be able to turn to someone with some power and say, “This is wrong,” and have them agree that is a Big Deal and worth telling the offender not to do anymore, without it taking away from the actual harm that others suffer as a result of untrue and negative beliefs about them.
Also, it’s not a competition. I don’t understand why it’s being framed that way… as if the members of the group that is treated most horribly “win” and the rest don’t even count. I want to live in a world where I can be for gay rights and bi rights and trans rights and asexual rights, rather than just having to pick one and fuck over everyone who belongs to the other groups.